I'm sure most of you who follow adoption blogs have been to The R House. She's an adoptive mother and she blogs about...well, life. I was reading one of her posts from way back in 2007 (very soon after she adopted her oldest son, Tyson) and found this analogy.
www.therhouse.com/the-car-analogy
Shouldn't it always be about what's best for the CHILD?
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Glee
I used to watch Glee. It's been stupid since the middle of the first season, but I enjoyed the music.
THEN they started this ridiculous adoption story line. It annoys the CRAP out of me. Adoption is a beautiful thing and it's made my life what it is. I don't appreciate some over popular trashy show dragging such a wonderful thing through the mud.
Stupid Glee.
THEN they started this ridiculous adoption story line. It annoys the CRAP out of me. Adoption is a beautiful thing and it's made my life what it is. I don't appreciate some over popular trashy show dragging such a wonderful thing through the mud.
Stupid Glee.
Friday, December 9, 2011
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Maybe a Little Bit Guilty
When people find out I've placed they often say things like "Wow, what an amazing thing you did" or "You're a very strong person". I can't help but feel a little bit guilty about these statements.
Yes, I loved my unborn child in ways I can't describe. My world revolved around her. There was nothing more important to me than her health and finding the perfect family for her.
Yes, when I placed I felt hurt and pain and a sorrow that was all consuming. I missed my baby girl so much I thought I would die from the emptiness.
Yes, I still love Samantha with a strong and unique love. Not a day goes by that she doesn't cross my mind, that prayers aren't said for her and her wonderful family.
Here's where the guilt comes from: It was good for me. I learned so much about patience, the way my Heavenly Father loves me, selflessness and love. When I placed Samantha I wasn't only giving HER the best chance at life, I was giving ME the best chance for a future. I was able to go away to school (which is how I met my wonderful husband). I was able to work and save and learn and grow.
My decision to place was absolutely based around what was best for my child, but I can't deny that it was good for ME too. So am I so amazing for placing? Maybe not. But I am grateful I was given the strength to do it.
Yes, I loved my unborn child in ways I can't describe. My world revolved around her. There was nothing more important to me than her health and finding the perfect family for her.
Yes, when I placed I felt hurt and pain and a sorrow that was all consuming. I missed my baby girl so much I thought I would die from the emptiness.
Yes, I still love Samantha with a strong and unique love. Not a day goes by that she doesn't cross my mind, that prayers aren't said for her and her wonderful family.
Here's where the guilt comes from: It was good for me. I learned so much about patience, the way my Heavenly Father loves me, selflessness and love. When I placed Samantha I wasn't only giving HER the best chance at life, I was giving ME the best chance for a future. I was able to go away to school (which is how I met my wonderful husband). I was able to work and save and learn and grow.
My decision to place was absolutely based around what was best for my child, but I can't deny that it was good for ME too. So am I so amazing for placing? Maybe not. But I am grateful I was given the strength to do it.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
A Birthday
This post will be picture-less, so I don't expect you to get through it. :D
Samantha turned 6 in October. It is hard for me to believe that my beautiful baby girl is now a six year old kindergartner. How did that happen?!
The week before her birthday Mike came from California to see her. I do not forget that I am blessed to have a good man to call Samantha's birth father. We don't talk often, but when we do there is no animosity or awkwardness. It's just good to see him.
We ate and talked and played the Wii that Mike bought the family last year. Ava is getting old enough to play and so Samantha has finally developed some interest in her. She loves how Ava says her name (vava) and starts up with that contagious giggle every time she can get her to say it. I love that laugh, I hope she keeps it forever.
The next week, for her birthday, my parents were able to go with my husband and I to have dinner with them.
I'm grateful for Samantha's familiy who welcome us into their home, for a husband who loves them as much as I do, for parents who support and love me and for a birthfather who cares enough to come from California to see her.
Samantha turned 6 in October. It is hard for me to believe that my beautiful baby girl is now a six year old kindergartner. How did that happen?!
The week before her birthday Mike came from California to see her. I do not forget that I am blessed to have a good man to call Samantha's birth father. We don't talk often, but when we do there is no animosity or awkwardness. It's just good to see him.
We ate and talked and played the Wii that Mike bought the family last year. Ava is getting old enough to play and so Samantha has finally developed some interest in her. She loves how Ava says her name (vava) and starts up with that contagious giggle every time she can get her to say it. I love that laugh, I hope she keeps it forever.
The next week, for her birthday, my parents were able to go with my husband and I to have dinner with them.
I'm grateful for Samantha's familiy who welcome us into their home, for a husband who loves them as much as I do, for parents who support and love me and for a birthfather who cares enough to come from California to see her.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Walk With Me
I'll be there, will you?!
Wear orange and come walk with us. I'd love to meet more of you!
Hooray for National Adoption Awareness Month!
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Am I crazy?
I'm a bit of a mess as of late. My feelings can't seem to get themselves together.
I stopped by The E's (I wont post their last name...I suppose I should give them SOME privacy!) the other day. First of all, can I tell you how much I love the fact that I can just "stop by" their house? I don't do it often, for the same reason I don't do it often to ANYONE. I don't want to interrupt their schedule or catch them in the middle of something. ANYWAY, I stopped in at their house and lucky me, Becky, Alex and Sam were home!
I only stayed about 15 minutes, but it was SO good to see them. As mentioned in my last post, it had been about six months since I saw them last. This was the first time Ava was old enough to play, and she had a blast with Becky's girls.
I was bummed I didn't get to see Ivan, but Samantha's birthday is coming up so I figured I would see him soon. However, I ran into him just a couple of days later at the grocery store! There is a Dick's grocery store just down the street from my house and it so happens that it's just down the street from E's house as well. Have I mentioned I live maybe a mile away from them?
I loved getting to see all 4 members of this lovely family in the space of only a few days.
Now...on to my crazy feelings...
I am sad! Why am I sad?
Maybe because the tiny baby girl I placed is turning SIX in a couple of weeks? That would make any kind of mother a little sad, right?
Maybe it's because seeing Alex and Sam play together makes me realize I want another one, and we're really not in a place right now where that is possible.
Maybe it's because I am hurting for all of the women I know who are unable, or currently unable, to have children. I know some seriously amazing women who struggle with infertility and I hurt for them.
Well, I will just boost up that saddness by remembering that I am blessed with two amazing little girls, an incredible adoptive family and a beautiful open adoption.
I stopped by The E's (I wont post their last name...I suppose I should give them SOME privacy!) the other day. First of all, can I tell you how much I love the fact that I can just "stop by" their house? I don't do it often, for the same reason I don't do it often to ANYONE. I don't want to interrupt their schedule or catch them in the middle of something. ANYWAY, I stopped in at their house and lucky me, Becky, Alex and Sam were home!
I only stayed about 15 minutes, but it was SO good to see them. As mentioned in my last post, it had been about six months since I saw them last. This was the first time Ava was old enough to play, and she had a blast with Becky's girls.
I was bummed I didn't get to see Ivan, but Samantha's birthday is coming up so I figured I would see him soon. However, I ran into him just a couple of days later at the grocery store! There is a Dick's grocery store just down the street from my house and it so happens that it's just down the street from E's house as well. Have I mentioned I live maybe a mile away from them?
I loved getting to see all 4 members of this lovely family in the space of only a few days.
Now...on to my crazy feelings...
I am sad! Why am I sad?
Maybe because the tiny baby girl I placed is turning SIX in a couple of weeks? That would make any kind of mother a little sad, right?
Maybe it's because seeing Alex and Sam play together makes me realize I want another one, and we're really not in a place right now where that is possible.
Maybe it's because I am hurting for all of the women I know who are unable, or currently unable, to have children. I know some seriously amazing women who struggle with infertility and I hurt for them.
Well, I will just boost up that saddness by remembering that I am blessed with two amazing little girls, an incredible adoptive family and a beautiful open adoption.
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