Saturday, March 31, 2012
Today I went to the annual adoptive couple retreat that is hosted each year by the lovely Jessa. You can find her blotting at birthmothers4adoption. I was on a birthparent panel and a prospective adoptive couple asked us what they should write in the letter to a birthmother. This letter is included in couples profiles. I can imagine how hard it is to write a letter that will capture the attention of someone you have never met and honestly share your feelings.
Allow me to give you my advice. Take it or leave it, the choice is yours.
1. Be honest.
2. If you are willing to take part in an open adoption I would suggest saying so in your letter. This is important to many expecting parents.
3. I would suggest (this is just my opinion!) Leaving out the cheesy quotes. To me they just look like fillers and they are not your words, and its your words we want to read.
4. Keep it simple. Decide what you want to say, and say it!
5. Make sure the birthparent knows that you respect them and that you understand their choice is a difficult one.
6. Finally, pray. Ask the Lord. He is there.
I have a deep respect for adoptive and hopeful adoptive couples. Best of luck.
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Do you have these for your little ones (or just for you)?
Once Upon a Time by Ashley Hansen Bigler
Not once have I made it through this book without crying. It focuses on the Birthmother more than other adoption books I've found and I appreciate that. I gave a copy of this to Samantha and her sister and I want them to know that they're loved by their BMom's and their parents!
"You know, Ava's going to think she was adopted."