Saturday, March 31, 2012

letters to a birthmom

First of all, I am typing this on my kindle fire. I love this thing, but having to bust out more than a sentance or two on it starts to make me a little crazy. Forgive my spelling and grammatical errors. I tried.

Today I went to the annual adoptive couple retreat that is hosted each year by the lovely Jessa. You can find her blotting at birthmothers4adoption. I was on a birthparent panel and a prospective adoptive couple asked us what they should write in the letter to a birthmother. This letter is included in couples profiles. I can imagine how hard it is to write a letter that will capture the attention of someone you have never met and honestly share your feelings.

Allow me to give you my advice. Take it or leave it, the choice is yours.

1. Be honest.
2. If you are willing to take part in an open adoption I would suggest saying so in your letter. This is important to many expecting parents.
3. I would suggest (this is just my opinion!) Leaving out the cheesy quotes. To me they just look like fillers and they are not your words, and its your words we want to read.
4. Keep it simple. Decide what you want to say, and say it!
5. Make sure the birthparent knows that you respect them and that you understand their choice is a difficult one.
6. Finally, pray. Ask the Lord. He is there.

I have a deep respect for adoptive and hopeful adoptive couples. Best of luck.

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